Become the Cultivator of Your Own Life
Do you have that nagging feeling inside that you’ve done all the things you were supposed to do?
You checked all the boxes. You followed the formula for the game of life. But you can't stop thinking that there's something more out there.
You wonder what would have happened if you'd made one different choice.
All this thinking about a different way of being is taking you out of your most precious gift, which is the present moment.
If you're ready to live the life you've always wanted, to cultivate from your heart, then this work is for you.
To become a cultivator of your own life means walking your path with your heart as your compass. Each step you take, you take with intention, integrity, love, and devotion.
You embrace the present moment with the clarity and stability to live a life that brings you joy, while allowing yourself to embrace the sorrows.
You are the cultivator of your own life. I'm here to help you learn to navigate your own roadmap.
The Five Pillars: Your Roadmap
This is the roadmap. The five pillars are interwoven, almost like an infinity loop within itself. There is no start or finish line, and each pillar supports the others. Wherever you are right now, there’s a place on the loop to begin.
1. Physical Foundation
Honoring our body, our vessel for how we navigate the world. Taking care of this vessel, like a car, is the foundation. We need it to travel this roadmap. This means taking care of our health, eating well, being active, and getting good sleep, to name a few.
2. Mental & Emotional Awareness
Taking the time to still our minds, meet our shadows, understand our egos, and be self-aware. Self-care is built into our daily practices, including our spiritual practice.
3. Self-Discovery
Understanding what we truly want, what we truly desire, and what we truly need. We need to be leading from our hearts. Our heart is our compass. How do we know we're truly making choices for ourselves? Not from our upbringing, our partner, society, or cultural influences, but from what our heart truly desires.
4. Courageous Growth
Turning self-discovery into action, because otherwise it's just a thought. Heading toward the things that make us uncomfortable and learning to discern: What is your intuition telling you? Is it a no? Or is it excitement because it's something new? Anything new can be uncomfortable. Stepping into your growth edge is where the destination lives.
5. Conscious Connection
Connection with others, experiences, places, and the world. It's about the connections that expand and support us. It's also about recognizing when a connection reveals our boundaries and helps us understand what is a "no".
It’s a beautiful infinity loop of these five pillars.
Meet You Mentor
A Life Cultivator. An unlikely mentor, led by her heart and reinforced by joy
My name is Mary, and I've walked this path. In fact, a better way to say that is I'm still walking this path.
Looking back, I have always been a curious person. I remember playing in my yard as a child, lifting logs to see the life wiggling underneath, feeling like a gentle giant filled with joy. I watched the birds fly across the sky, imagining the messages they were communicating to each other and even to me.
My studies led me down the path of behavioral science, which further fueled my curious, analytical, and observational nature. But I still questioned ME…my purpose.
That curiosity is a big part of why I'm an unlikely mentor. I approach my life this way from the moment I wake up, with every step I take.
I was always called the black sheep of the family, the person who marched to the beat of her own drum, someone quick to challenge authority in a very loud, fashionable way. It's no mystery why I was drawn to punk rock and its counterculture when I was younger. Defying authority. Carving out my own way.
And that way has unfolded into a beautiful path full of abundance. The home I've created with my children and my garden is plentiful. I'm not rushing to the top of some capitalistic ladder to look out from my penthouse. Rather, I'm collecting experiences and forging my way alongside like-minded people who are led by their hearts.
Here's what that looks like:
You'll find me dancing until 3 in the morning at an underground rave. And you'll also find me in the woods, meditating and communing with nature.
You'll see me at a party, talking with all different groups of people, laughing, singing, and dancing. And you'll also see me walking down the street, contemplating a poem I just wrote.
You'll see me outspokenly criticizing the structures that are crumbling in our society. And you'll see me generating hope within my communities, imagining how we can re-envision a world led by our hearts.
Through all of these experiences, my curiosity continues to guide me. I'm fascinated by people, by the patterns we develop, the stories we tell ourselves, and the choices we make.
I'm a behaviorist. But I'm also a seer, and I see you.
When we work together, I bring that same curiosity and observation into our conversations. I listen, reflect, share perspective, and sometimes challenge you to look at something differently. Not to tell you who to become, but to help you see yourself more clearly.
And now, when the caterpillar asks me, "WHO ARE YOU?" I have the answer…
I am Mary, and I walk the spiritual path as a cultivator of joy, with curiosity and an open heart to others.
Who Are You?
Through the Looking Glass (TTLG) Integration is about looking at our own reflections to gain self-awareness.
When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we see ourselves looking back, but we are also reflections of each other. What surrounds us can reveal something about where we are on our own journey.
And perhaps something you've encountered here has you curious about what more is possible.
Who are you?
Private Mentorship: Walking the Roadmap Together
During our three to six months together, we'll develop a relationship where you feel safe, seen, and supported. Through conversation, reflection, and compassionate accountability, I'll help you recognize your patterns, explore possibilities, and turn your self-awareness into action.
Life is full of practices. Maybe you're working on meditation, breathwork, journaling, or taking better care of your body. Or perhaps you're ready to return to something you love, like dancing, singing, playing an instrument, or exploring a forgotten passion.
Along the way, there will be hurdles, flat tires, and detours. I'll be there as a sounding board, helping you look at what's happening, explore your choices, and find your way forward.
This is part of the seeing I help with, allowing you to become your own seer. To lead with your heart as your compass and cultivate a life abundant with joy.
3 or 6 months · Private 60-minute sessions · Every two weeks
Client Reflections
“From the moment I met her, I felt a sense of ease and alignment.”
Anonymous Client
"She provided me with the tools and resources to help me stay focused on a healing path while providing caring suport and guidance."
Eric, Client
“I would highly recommend working with Mary, especially if you are feeling like your personal growth is stalled and needs a jump start!”
Anonymous Client
Explore the Collection
Cultivating a life of joy takes many forms.
Beyond private mentorship, I've created a collection of offerings to support your own practices of reflection, self-discovery, and well-being.
Explore my Personal Journey Journal, Mary's Magik tinctures, and additional services, including psychedelic integration and distant Reiki.
Let's Connect
You've explored a little of my world. Now I'd love to learn about yours.
Perhaps something you've read here has sparked your curiosity or helped you see something in yourself.
Let's start with a conversation.
I offer a complimentary 30-minute introductory call where we can explore what you're looking to cultivate in your life and whether working together feels aligned.
No expectations. No commitments. Just an opportunity to connect.